What is this incessant need to make ourselves better? Why don’t we accept who we are and what we have as enough?
Blame it on Your Parents
Sure, this sounds a little bit harsh, but there is no denying the conditioning that took place in our formative years. We idolized our parents and looked to them for cues on everything we did and thought, who we hung out with, what was acceptable for our place in the household and in their hearts. We did things purely because it would make Mommy and Daddy happy, and we thrived on their approval. It’s no wonder that even in our 40’s and 50’s we still carry their voices in our heads and, perhaps subconsciously, are still trying to please them.
How can we Release Our Need for Their Approval?
Even though we intellectually recognize that the standards we are constantly holding ourselves up to are not of our own making and are often not even in alignment with what we feel in our hearts, these old habits and ways of being die hard.
Your Conscious Awareness and Vigilance will Cut the Ties that Bind You
As you move through your day, you must continually ask yourself, “Is this what I really want?”, “Am I doing this for me or for someone else?”, “Is this aligned with the essence of my Spirit?”. And even more importantly you must affirm to yourself all of the good that you are and the value you provide to society, your family and friends, and to the world. Affirmations may include things like, “I am whole and complete exactly as I am”, I am a loving and lovable Child of God”, “I am one with all of life”. As you pay attention to your feelings as you ask these questions and affirm these truths, you will find a veil being lifted and you will feel more balance and attuned to the essence of who you really are. You will know, beyond question, that you don’t need fixing!
You are Loved. Love Yourself.
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About the Author: Sue Urda is an Author, Speaker, Inspirer and Co-Founder of Powerful You! Women’s Network, She was named twice on Inc. Magazines list of the 500 Fastest-Growing Private Companies and is the author of two books, Powerful Intentions Everyday Gratitude and Empowering Transformations for Women. Sue’s vision is to contribute to a global consciousness of women helping women succeed in business and in life and to open them to truth of who they are. www.sueurda.com