Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are listening to someone, and this person in front of you is saying something that is virtually unbelievable to you or so outlandish that you don’t really know how to respond. You don’t want to hurt their feelings or push them away, and yet, you are astounded at the depth of their irrational or un-relatable rant. Your mind is awhirl with social etiquette teachings and, although you are doing your best to give them the benefit of the doubt, you are thinking to yourself, “That’s just crazy talk”.
What’s a gal to do?
Well, it depends on what your goal is. If you wish to extricate yourself from or shift the conversation, you can reply with an “I see” and then ask a question that is on a completely different subject. This will serve to startle them and they might actually get back to a real conversation with you – or not. Then, you have the option to continue with them or gently excuse yourself.
If, on the other hand, you would like to nurture this relationship, you would ask a question to gain more clarity and perhaps to understand why this is important to them. Asking questions is an effective way to create rapport and deepen our relationship with others. Questions serve to let the others know that you care about them – maybe not about the subject, but about them. So, have some fun with this.
The next time, you are thinking, “That’s just crazy talk”, take a deep breath and proceed with love. Now, that’s Powerful!